Build YourSelfUse this simple tool to help you build your Self-Esteem, Self-Belief and Self-Confidence
The Trust Bank
A simple yet effective tool to build your self-belief.
The Trust Bank Activity is a simple yet extremely effective method of increasing your own self-belief, and as a result self-esteem and self-confidence. It is based around the concept of an account balance. If your account balance is high, you have high levels of self-trust. If it is low, or in the negative, you will have low levels of self-trust.
Self-belief is when you tell yourself something…and you believe it. Self-belief is built when you follow through with what you say you are going to do. It is the crucial first step to building a positive sense of who you are. It is also the step that most people don’t know about. Self-esteem is not just telling your self good things, it is whether you believe what you tell yourself.
We look for evidence that supports our beliefs, that way we know that they are true. When you build the level of behavioural evidence that says that you follow through, you increase your level of self-belief. You believe you what you say to yourself.
Self-confidence is the concept that we are confident in our ability to manage whatever is happening in our lives. In order for us to feel that confidence, we need to have enough evidence markers to prove that we have done so in the past, otherwise, we don’t believe that we can. It all rests on self-belief…so that is where we must first start.
As parent’s we are often concerned with our children’s levels of self-esteem. We also feel responsible for helping them, build that positive self-image. But how exactly do we do that? The problem with self-image this is that YOU cannot do it for them. They have to do it for themselves. This tool WILL help them to do just that.
Talk about it.
Start a conversation about how you are changing your own levels of self-belief and self-esteem. Make it a family conversation piece at the dinner table. Tell them what you are doing to build your own levels of self-trust. Ask how they have built their throughout the day. Talk to them about the evidence of your success and how you feel about it. Begin the conversation and allow them the space to join in.
Our children copy what we do. Show them how you are doing it and they will copy and implement it for themselves. Print up the Trust Bank Image, put it all over the house to remind you AND them.
Feel it freely
Be open with your feelings about yourself. It is this vulnerability that will have a powerful impact on your own child. As your self-belief grows, show them and talk about how you feel differently about yourself. Your power lies in your honesty and example.
The Relationship Trust Bank
All relationships have a trust bank where you believe what your partner tells you. You can build the level of trust within the relationship by using the same simple tool.
Talk about it.
Start a conversation about how you can work together to build a feeling of positive confidence in your relationship. This is once again, based on building the evidence of follow through.
Show your partner that you are following through for yourself and for them.
Feel it freely
Be open with your feelings about your relationship and how you are feeling about consciously building your trust bank account balance.
It all rests on whether YOU believe YOU. That is where you have to start!