A Mother’s Guilt
Why is it, that in today’s society, anything a mother does for herself, is called selfish?
Why do we have to give all of ourselves to the mothering process?
Please don’t misinterpret me here. I love my children. I dedicate myself to mothering them, raising them, loving them. Giving them, all that I have. But I do not do it every single second of the day. There are times during the day, when what I need is more important than their need.
It presupposes that if we do choose something for ourselves, that we must feel bad about it.
Will somebody please tell me when enough is enough? Is enough EVER enough? And if we do, sacrifice ourselves onto the alter of motherhood, will our children ever be grateful enough to fill that void where we once used to call ourselves “me”?
Where we once had an identity. Where we once had enjoyment that did not surround and depend on the mothering of a child!
In order for us to give of ourselves to our children, we must first, have something to give.
So is it really selfish?
As part of my study requirements, I am traveling interstate for the Neuro Linguist Programming (NLP) training to certify me as a NLP practitioner. And I will admit to you, there have been a few raised eyebrows sent in my direction because of this. I have steadfastly held onto the knowledge that my need to fulfill my study obligations, does not mean that I am not fulfilling my parental obligations. Nobody raises an eyebrow when my husband frequently works away from home!
Am I really sacrificing the future happiness and psychological stability of our children by going away to study for six nights?
I do not believe so.
Happy and fulfilled parents, raise happy and fulfilled children.